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Sunday, June 12, 2011

JCICS and "The Kyrgyz 65" Help bring them home

Thursday, June 9, 2011

Three Years / 200 posts

Sadly tonight my ticker counter says all that can be said. Today Three years ago I met and accepted a little girl as my daughter.

And as if that were not enough another milestone This is post number 200! Sigh

Saturday, May 28, 2011

Immersion in Kyrgyz Culture/ and One year as Momma

First before I go into Kyrgyz stuff..... I just have to say. I am an awful blogger. Really! I started this blog over three years ago. And up until about a year ago I was obsessed. Hmm wonder what could have changed that??? Oh yeah I became a mom! We became a family. I simply respect all those great bloggers out there who can blog and be mom/dad. I just seem to forget to blog. Poor Kolya.. Although he is growing up on Facebook!!! However I just have to say that one year ago,May 27th, in a courtroom in Novgorod, Russia, I became mom to Nikolai Ivanov I. And he became Nikolas Benjamin Richard Bates. He is our love, our joy, our new life. He means the world to us and I can't imagine how this road came to be. Without the road which has been rocky and rough. Full of so many periods of waiting and tears, Kolya would not be a part of our life. Kolya one year ago became part of a family (on paper) and he was no longer an orphan! Next month (June 24) we will have him in our arms for 1 year. Sure Hope I can find the time to do him justice and get a one year home blog post up!!!!

Ok... Maybe.. Just maybe by being immersed in the culture of everything Kyrgyz we can herald in the coming of good news from Kyrgyzstan???? If one is to believe in dreams I must admit I had the first dream that I was actually holding Shelby Kristina in my arms. We were laughing and running... All my past dreams have been of seeing her in the distance. Just out of arms reach. Not allowed to get close. Not allowed to touch or even let her know I am there. Can it be???

Anyway back to Kyrgyz stuff. We are spending the night in Bethesda Md. In the morning Kolya and I will meet so many that we have met only virtually on this journey. So many that hold our struggle close. So many that pray for resolution. The day I am sure will bring a large circle of emotions. The joy at seeing Kyrgyz kids in their families. The fun of reliving the culture of Kyrgyzstan. The food, the people I have come to love so much on this journey. This weekend is The Kyrgyz Children's Future Kyrgyzstan reunion weekend. Then on June first we will return to Washington D.C. for festivities at the Kyrgyzstan Embassy. June 1st is National Children's Day in Kyrgyzstan. And the Kyrgyz Embassy is sponsoring a day for children, as well as a meeting in the evening for all those who hold an interest in Kyrgyzstan Adoptions. They will be updating on the latest news available. Hoping that this weekend the sights of children having fun, Children thriving, Children being children in their adopted families from not only Kyrgyzatan, but from The United States, Russia, Kazakhstan and Ghana. Children need their families. Children need love. And love knows no international boundaries.

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Roza speaks to us again personally on FACEBOOK

Amendments to the Family Code of the Kyrgyz Republic, children adoption Roza Otunbayeva on Saturday, April 23, 2011 at 3:42amDear sirs & madams,
I wish to share the information that the Kyrgyzstan’s Parliament has approved the draft bill “On implementing amendments into the Family Code of the Kyrgyz Republic”, which I am going to sign in the very nearest future.
This draft bill is a good result of rigorous and coordinated efforts of the Government and the appropriate Committee of the country’s Parliament. It builds up a firm base for our further cooperative work to improve the legal framework in this area.
The approved draft bill is also enabling us to complete adjusting the rules of international adoption, in particular to set number of regulations providing for procedures for accreditation of adoption agencies and adoption itself.

Dear adoptive parents,
Passage of the law on đÉmendments to the Family Code of the Kyrgyz Republic is an important step towards lifting the moratorium imposed by the former Parliament upon international adoption.
I believe that joined and tireless efforts will allow us to pass promptly all required by-laws in the field of international adoption, and enable to adopt children.
While remaining committed to do my best in achieving the mentioned objectives, I thank you once again for your patience and understanding.

Sincerely yours,
Roza Otunbayeva

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Family Code... Baby Steps

Just a quick update... Yesterday The Parliament of Kyrgyzstan passed the readings of the Family Code. This is our first step towards getting our children out of Kyrgyzstan. Next we need Roza to sign the family code into law. We need someone in kyrgyz to sign off on the MOU that has been written and re-written by our DOS. We believe there may be a reaccredidation necessary for our adoption agencies. But "supposedly" all this is just a formality and all just need sto get signed.

Let's hope that the "formality" happens quickly.

Wednesday, March 9, 2011


Hi everyone,

This is a totally out of the blue request... I hope I can tell this story as briefly as possible yet convey the great need for prayer, good vibes, juju from the Universe but also potential a shout out for sponsorship for a little orphan boy in Kyrgyzstan who is now in a hospital in Bishkek. I hate asking for donations I have never been good at campaigning. And I hope I did not get in over my head. So I am looking to you guys to help spread the word... Maybe someone has ideas of fundraising for this story.

But on to my story.... Several here already know this story so this will be a recap for them. For the rest of you bare with me as I recap two years.

In April and May of 2009 I spent two weeks with John seeing all the aide he, his group and another NGO in Kyrgyzstan provide. I spent a few days in meetings for our 65 kids but for the most part this trip was Humanitarian Aide. During the trip we met with a woman whom I had met on my second trip to Kg. She along with her team leader took John and I and a friend to a specialized orphanage. We were the first "outsiders" allowed in this orphanage since the Hilary Clinton debacle which caused much stress to orphanages around Kg.

In one particular section of the orphanage we were met by a little boy at the door. This we found out was Aidar.. Aidar immediately took me by the hand. Which was my first clue that something was wrong! Aidar's hands were as cold as ice. When I looked down his hands and fingers were purple! And his fingers and nails were clubbed ( medical term which is a definitive diagnosis for a person who lives not getting enough oxygen to their extremities). Aidar spent the next hour holding me by the hand and showing me his classroom. He sat in my lap and hugged me. I knew he needed help. And he stole my heart. Once back home I asked to get more information about Aidar. I sent some funds to cover expenses to drive to his orphanage. Betty (who has been the main advocate in Bishkek for Aidar) met with the director of his orphanage. The director at that time basically said sorry there is nothing that can be done for him and we have no plans on allowing you to have access to his medical records. So the case was closed. I was here and Betty was leaving. Nothing we could do........

But then December came. And I received emails from Betty who is now back in Bishkek. She went to an orphanage 7 hours outside of Bishkek. And in those photos were pictures of Aidar. Sometime in the last two years Aidar was moved. The door was again open to advocate for Aidar. Betty met with the new director. He was much more open to allowing Aidar to receive care. His records were copied last month and sent to us here in the states. Several of us here in the U.S.( I will let those folks name themselves if they want to be named) reviewed his medical records and determined he needed further testing before we could figure out the next plan of care.

Well the next step has happened very quickly. We were anticipating getting an ECHO of Aidar's heart. Aidar returning to his orphanage and waiting for input from doctors here in the U.S. to review the results. What we have been met with is a little boy in heart failure. Aidar is now 9. He is the size of a 5 year old and his hands are now purple to his wrists. It may be too late to save Aidar. We do not know yet. Surgery may in fact be too much for his heart to handle. But I do not think that the cardiologists expected to be met by a little boy in such severe medical distress. Betty said he was completely out of breath when he climbed the stairs to her apartment and it took him a long time to recover. Aidar has been admitted to the hospital in Bishkek. I have very limited information tonight. But i have been told that Aidar needs immediate surgery. Which I am not sure if he will get in Bishkek or will need to come abroad. Surgery in Bishkek is very very risky. I along with the other moms here in the U.S. believe surgery in Bishkek is not the best answer but unfortunately we are not there. We can only advise from 7000 miles away.

So I leave this story with a request for prayers, juju, good thoughts to be sent to Aidar. A little orphan boy who has touched my heart and many others this last two years. I do hope we have done the right thing by bringing him to Bishkek. And as much as I hate to ask.... Along with prayers if anyone is interested in helping financially. We can either send money through John at Act of Kindness and make sure to write "for Aidar" in the comments section. Or we can send support through YWAM. If anyone wants to send support through YWAM (Youth With A Mission) I can get that address to anyone who wants just let me know.

I will leave you with a photo of sweet Aidar. taken several years ago.